Thursday, November 27, 2014

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Tuesday, November 11, 2014

The Tao of Sully

The Tao of Sully
On Couchsurfing:

Hi there!
Before we start, for any new readers, welcome.
The Tao of Sully is a collection of my walking a spiritual road in Life.  And how it fits as well.
Whether uphill in the rain, winding in the night or a straight shot you can put the pedal to the mettle...my road, one step at a time.  Namaste.

Couchsurfing usually means something else.  Here I'll mean it as "Time Spent with my Shrink".
I just spent 20 months "Couchsurfing".
It's over.  And although one can't say they are "cured"...gosh I feel Better.

This is the Final Installment of a recent series of mine, dovetailing my Spiritual Lessons with my Therapy.
I'm pretty open about it.  The only shame is doing Nothing About It when you might have a problem.
in chronological order leading up to now...for your context or information:
July 4, 2013: My 1st Installment titled, "Independence Day".  Deep & well-intended.
October 19, 2013: On Brahmacharya, the Spiritual Value of Abstinence.
June 21, 2014: One Year Couchsurfing, and the insights & breakthroughs found
then unintentionally August 14, 2014: On Suicide, about the tragic loss of Robin Williams, personal hero & fellow foole.


My Shrink & I came to conclusion a few months ago.
I was getting a lot better.
It's something they call "resilience" and I regained mine.
Through Talking, through an anti-depressant and through my sense of Spirituality...all three finally dove-tailed into a healthier Me.  Sheeesh.  Wow.
We were developing and talking about an "Endgame" anyhoo, my therapist & me..."What are we benefiting through meeting", "are there any more avenues we'd like to explore"...then came Reality.  My Shrink got reassigned somewhere geographically challenging.  Therefore, she could no longer have me as a patient.
Bummer!  And we just got used to each other!  ^_~
but really...we had already come to a great conclusion: I'm gonna try this on my own for a bit.
And if I need to, I can always come back in from the Cold.
I'll continue to take my Med.  And Meditate.  Yet...taking a break from the safety net of Talk Therapy with my Psychologist.
I'm not scared.  It does feel a little daunting.  And a little wistful.  Yet...I feel Ready.  I do!
I'll miss the sessions.  I gained so much insight.  Doc knew what questions to ask, exactly when in my narrative as to let me mull it over...and it happened more than a few times.

Then came our last session.
I took the opportunity to say a few things.
I advised a sense of Spirituality in therapy if someone isn't pulling it all together.  And it's hard because we're not talking religion or allegiance.  But that we have three aspects: The Mind, the Body & The Spirit.
And although we're taking care of 2 of the 3 here in a session (meds + talk = result), the spirit is rarely addressed.
Attachments to outcomes are rarely addressed.
These are lessons I learned from being a spiritual guy.
Yet, she always had me on my toes.  Identifying latent anxiety even in that last meeting.  I chuckle over that one.  Anger...getting really steamed...is a form of anxiety.  I was telling her about my melancholy, having nothing to do with our impending division and she IDed it off that bat: anger is anxiety.

Also brought up something that happened at work just that day, where the Chef pulled our special without warning.  My partner was SO steamed yet I fired back, "do NOT make his story UP for him!!...I'm getting back to work!"
And hour later we found out we had one customer complaint and he forgot to put the sign back up after he checked the special as "fine".  Haha.  My shrink was the most demonstrative I've ever seen, she's always laughed at my good jokes but this was congratulatory!  She was so pleased & elated with hearing that one.

When we wrapped it up, I gave her a firm handshake (thinking hug was too gauche for therapy) and I gave her a Batman keyfob.
She accepted it warmly.  I told her, I'm not gonna call you my superhero...but thanks for throwing me a line.
So thank you so very much, Doctor.  As we say, I did all the work but you definitely Lit The Way.
Like streetlamps on this Road, this Way...this Tao of Me.
Namaste.  And Good Luck.

Kriya Shakti,
Rev. Sully
Hub o'the Multiverse

Eric O'Sullivan
Boston, MA USA


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Monday, November 10, 2014

The Tao of Sully

The Tao of Sully
On Singlehood & Why

God Bless the IntrePoop!  
Recently, I've been blessed with an old friend who found me through Twitter!  It's great to touch a soul and be rewarded like this.  So thanks Dani for reaching out.  She called me out on my "Bee-Ess" when I zinged on Twitter, recently.  I made a humdinger of a joke, rooted in real life when a pamphleteer in Kendall Square wanted to share the New Testament with me.
Dani is in Bold.  And we shared a nice cup of coffee on a Saturday Morning, having a nice chat.
That's what friends are for, eh?  
And why on God's earth are you having issues finding a date for a Friday night?  Sounds like someone needs a swift kick in his ass to get out of his comfort zone...Just sayin......

ahhh...that's a great question. It does distill down to a certain level of shyness, pickiness and when it comes down to it...I feel good old fashioned Luck...or even Karma!  I believe in Both!  ^_^
Karma is an interesting thing, much used & abused in our culture yet I'm an amateur theologian. So say if you'd have to identify my body for a religious burial, I'd hope you'll say, "He was a Hindu or a Buddhist" ^_~  So Karma is an interesting subject.  There is also A-karma and Vi-karma along with Karma, so there are levels of Karma within itself, usually unbeknownst to the the normal Westerner.  Maybe I shouldn't have dumped her like that back in High School is what I'm saying; and the Goddess is still pissed about that even after all the chances She's given me since... ^_~ 

Also, the Least Acceptable Reason is: I work 6 Days a Week and I'm an early bird.  I wake up usually between 4-5AM on any given weekday, also Sundays.  I just slept-in a glorious 12hrs on my one day off!  Ahhhh!!!  ^_^  So I go to bed early as well to get a decent 8 hours of Sleep to function in my aerobic trade: being an awesome linecook.  I rock my Service.  
Service to Me is simultaneously a Verb & a Noun but iDigress... 
Yet that's the Worst Excuse for saying 'hey, I never get to meet anybody!'.  
I'm a Union 26 chef at MIT where I work Mon-Fri, earning the best wages, the best benefits & the best schedule with job security, sick time & vacation time.  On Sunday's, I'm a kickass brunch cook at "Best of" Somerville's hipster-tastic: Highland Kitchen!
I've been doing this for 2 years and chef promoted me to Lead.  ^_~
Shhesh, all this and I can cook the "Bag of Chips".  I think I'm what's called a "Catch". 
Too bad I live in Boston...living in Boston doesn't help regardless of what you'd think, being a World-Class City.  We have this reputation of snobby women!  I didn't make that up.  

I've blogged about it...I took 4 years off of dating wherein I learned to Meditate.  
It was a very important time for me called "Brahmacharya", a sacrifice on a spiritual level.  
So, I came back to dating about 2 years ago.  I had 2 successful dates that first year, where we went out for a month each, both courtesy of OKStupid.  And this calendar year I've had 2 unsuccessful dates via Match Dot Com.  IRL, In Real Life, I got laughed at for asking out my favorite waitress at my old Local Pub =( 
Hey, I'm proud of myself for trying!  

So lack of Love makes me a wee wistful sometimes, when it catches up with me.  No feeling sorry for me though, please...I guess I made this bed and I'll lie in it alone until I catch someone's eye, which is what it comes down to I think.  Like last week, I'm Saturday Brunching at the Five Horses Tavern, reading my fresh stack of funnybooks while an uninteresting college football game plays on the HD.  The gal sitting next to me was doing a crossword.  I charmingly butted-in and ultimately helped her get that last corner before she left.  
I totally shoulda, coulda & woulda...
but I don't believe in Shoulda Woulda Coulda.  ^_^

Thanks for asking & sharing this cup of AM coffee in the early afternoon ^_^
much love to all in Ohio!  I love football, btw yet I save it all for Patriots Gameday